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Training in Wisdom

Training in Wisdom article

Our children may be judged or suffer simply because of the perception of others over emotional issues, i.e. feelings.  Second Timothy 3:12 (NKJV): “Yes, and all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution.” We live in a most unusual time when our children may actually be singled out when they choose values that align with God’s Word.  Parents must be tuned in.  These are opportunities to build resolve and discernment in our children which ultimately develops wisdom.  They are on loan to us from God, and He has the final say in their upbringing.  “Moreover it is required in stewards that one be found faithful,” 1 Corinthians 4:2 (NKJV). Situations they face may be very hard for them to understand, and they need our help. 

“And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.” 

Galatians 6:9 (NKJV)

Connected or checked in parenting requires that we process a lot of information and assess many situations in the abstract.  This requires time, self-sacrifice and a level head.  As a parent, we may be our child’s only advocate; however, being an advocate involves more than just whether they are right or wrong, but rather what they need to learn from the experience. 

Often we will find our children are misunderstood or thought by others to be something they are not.  This is a pure judgement of their behavior at any given moment as interpreted by someone else.  Our children benefit greatly when we can talk through specific situations.  One important thing to remember is that these discussions are building blocks in helping them to be successful in the context of relationships with others.  Sometimes the lesson is in helping them realize how their words may have been untimely.  They might need help in channeling their competitive nature.  The point of this article is to remind us that these are all opportunities to equip our children with wisdom.  Wisdom is the processing of knowledge; i.e., it is what to do in the moment an opportunity is presented.

Everyone in our child’s environment does not have their best interest at heart.  Our children are better off to learn that about people.  We want to avoid the subjective parenting that blames everything on others and gives our children no responsibility.  Objective parenting steps outside of our heart and sees the situation from all parties.  Wisdom comes in accepting and acknowledging responsibility for our actions and their impact on others.  Wisdom doesn’t say we were wrong, but it says next time it could be handled differently for a better outcome. 

We are also called on to protect and defend them when necessary.  We want them to be competitive, but we need to help them assess appropriateness of the same.  We want them to be honest, but help them to know when honesty can be cruel.  So what do we do?  We help them grow in wisdom.  Proverbs 23:24 (NKJV): “The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice, And he who begets a wise child will delight in him.”

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